Don't Smother Your Child's "Have-to's"

Don't Smother Your Child's "Have-to's"

Parents are often tempted to give “have-to’s” to their children—imperatives like “go do your math homework.” They may not realize that there are already plenty of have-to’s within in every child, without anyone having to put them there. Those have-to’s are urges to do something, to learn something, or to create something, borne purely of curiosity and interest.

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The Real Problem with Overparenting

The Real Problem with Overparenting

Overparenting is the new buzzword among parenting experts. It is fast becoming the next big threat, poised to overtake screen time as the go-to boogeyman. Yet for all the attention we are giving overparenting, we are not yet seeing the real problem clearly.  

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Conscientious Parents, Conscientious Children

Conscientious Parents, Conscientious Children

A task completed with conscientiousness is a task completed carefully and in an orderly way. Being orderly means working with deliberation and organization. Being careful encompasses thoroughness with regard to details and vigilance with regard to progress...

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Determined Parents, Determined Children

Determined Parents, Determined Children

Enjoying successes is not always a one-step journey, and often involves setbacks or failure along the way. These difficulties, even if they do not detract from optimism about pure ability to succeed, may still wear down the will to continue. Determination means continuing despite difficulties, overcoming not only the external adversity but also one's own weakened resolve to stay true to the original objective....

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Optimistic Parents, Optimistic Children

Optimistic Parents, Optimistic Children

Parents frequently use negative and disallowing terms when speaking to their children. Often, they do this in order to protect their children from harm. They tell their children ‘no’, they can't go into the street and ‘no’, they can't pet strange dogs. Such language... 

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