Parents are often tempted to give “have-to’s” to their children—imperatives like “go do your math homework.” They may not realize that there are already plenty of have-to’s within in every child, without anyone having to put them there. Those have-to’s are urges to do something, to learn something, or to create something, borne purely of curiosity and interest.Read More
When a child feels like an essential part of something, they see themselves in a more positive light. They walk a little taller. They try more things. They learn more.
Today is an ordinary day for Avery and Benjamin, two children growing up in the same neighborhood…Read More
It is hard work for parents to provide children with the basics—food, shelter, and clothing. Of course, we often do much more than that, because we know that childhood is not simply about survival. Childhood is also about development. We want our children to thrive.Read More
Is it ever worth it for parents to control their children?
Parents want what is best for their children. Sometimes, they use coercive measures to make sure their children do what is in their own best interest. But they don’t necessarily consider the cost of making kids do something for their own good.Read More
Children endear themselves to their parents with every little thing: the cute way they talk, their bumbling attempts to try something new, and the way their heads bobble when they toddle. They are just so loveable. It is only natural that children make us feel joyous.Read More
Overparenting is the new buzzword among parenting experts. It is fast becoming the next big threat, poised to overtake screen time as the go-to boogeyman. Yet for all the attention we are giving overparenting, we are not yet seeing the real problem clearly.Read More
Do you feel the urge to tell your children exactly what you want them to think? Imagine one of your children just called somebody by a bad name, dropped a glass, or asked you about death. You can probably think of a lot of things you would like to say…Read More
Getting your kids to listen isn’t about some nuance with the words you choose, or with the way you say them. In fact, getting them to listen doesn’t even happen when you are telling them the thing you want them to listen to. It happens…Read More
For parents, exercising patience is not easy. Your children will not always follow your instructions, appreciate your efforts, or prioritize your deadlines. They will generously provide you with frustrating circumstances...Read More
A task completed with conscientiousness is a task completed carefully and in an orderly way. Being orderly means working with deliberation and organization. Being careful encompasses thoroughness with regard to details and vigilance with regard to progress...Read More
Enjoying successes is not always a one-step journey, and often involves setbacks or failure along the way. These difficulties, even if they do not detract from optimism about pure ability to succeed, may still wear down the will to continue. Determination means continuing despite difficulties, overcoming not only the external adversity but also one's own weakened resolve to stay true to the original objective....Read More
Parents frequently use negative and disallowing terms when speaking to their children. Often, they do this in order to protect their children from harm. They tell their children ‘no’, they can't go into the street and ‘no’, they can't pet strange dogs. Such language...Read More